Money is not an issue. Having no money is an issue. Having no money will lead to quarrels and unhappiness. One thing I've come to realised is that men and women have very different views regarding money.
Women: buys shoes, buys clothes, buys bags, buys make-up, buys rubbish things that are useless but oh-so-pretty.
Men: don't buy anything for 6 months and then buy a new car, or a new ipad, or some gadget.
At the end of the day, men and women spend almost the same amount of money. (Ok fine, it depends on how many pairs of shoes the women bought) :P
The boyfriend and I have been getting into ALL sorts of quarrels regarding money and the lack thereof. We just booked our wedding dinner and I'm planning to book my bridal photoshoot soon. All these cost money. Not to mention Actual Day photography and stuff, guo da li etc. Not exactly cheap. He told me yesterday that he needs to change his tyres of his car coz they are all worn out.
Sorry folks, I have no solution for this one. The shortage of money is such a big problem, I don't think there's actually anything to do about it except try to earn and save more. If you guys know of a solution, do let me know. I hate quarrelling about money too coz it seems so superficial and unimportant at the end of the day, but yet at the same time, money is so necessary, for us to go ahead with our wedding preparations. It is truly, the root of all evil. :(
One thing I managed to do though, was put myself in his shoes, albeit just for a little while. I know it must really suck, to be stressed about earning too little and not having enough. People can go to restaurants for meals every other day whereas we have to eat fast food, coffeeshops and even when we go to such places, order conservatively (the boyfriend has a bad habit of over-ordering). He feels quite lousy and frankly, so do I. But I am changing, becoming much more aware of the need to save, as compared to before when I lived paycheck to paycheck. I can only pray that he learns to start saving as well...otherwise, I see no end to this problem, no end to our quarrels and arguments.
